Things in a relationship that should send up red flags

* Is your partner jealous and possessive?

* Does your relationship veer from hot to cold?

* Do you find yourself covering for your partner or making your partner appear better than he or she really is?

* Is your partner comfortable taking money from you?

* Has your partner ever used your credit cards without your knowledge?

* Does your partner make you feel you're not good enough?

* Has your partner ever humiliated you in public?

* Does your partner withdraw love, friendship or approval as punishment?

* Does your partner have a bad temper triggered by something seemingly insignificant?

* Does your partner always shift blame onto you?

* Does your partner ever threaten, hit or shove you, punch walls, break your things or call you names?

* Does your partner pressure you to quit or change jobs, friends, relationships or homes?

* Does your partner have problems with authority figures?

n Has your partner ever stalked anyone for any reason?

* Do you have a gut, "sick" sense that things just aren't right?

Source: Safe House for Women