Motivating yourself

What motivates you to pursue your dreams? Who or what is the driving force behind your ability and desire to even have dreams, and work to make them come true?

I talked recently with a woman past the 80-year mark. The person has lost interest in almost everything in life. Her health is much better than it has been in the recent past, but she seems to find pleasure in little. At least that's the attitude she projects to others.

Many who retire and become unable to do the things they used to do become depressed and disinterested. On the other hand, there are others who keep a positive outlook regardless of their health and living conditions. You also see young and middle-aged people who vary in their outlook on what happens. Perspectives of different people vary as much as the leaves that fall. Many have reasons for various mood swings, such as ill health or dementia. Some people inherit negative personalities.

Regardless of why you feel lonely, depressed or out of sorts, if your mind is stable, you can change your perspective on your life.

I visited another lady who decided to stop trying to look attractive. She lives in a residence where she can have her nails manicured and her hair groomed regularly. I suggested she partake of those amenities. "I don't want my nails done," she said. She had always dressed stylishly and took great pride in how she looked. When I asked her about having her hair styled, she said, "No, it's too much trouble and I don't have to look good any more. I'm in my 80s."

I encouraged her by telling her I thought it would help her pass the time and make her feel good about herself, as well. I had little luck in convincing her. She seemingly has given up on trying to exert any personal effort toward being happy. If family invites her to go out, she usually participates. It saddened me to hear her talk as if nothing mattered anymore.

If you look around, you see people of all ages and circumstances who interpret and react differently to their experiences. Some try to make the best of every situation and keep a positive outlook.

If they are going through an unpleasant ordeal, they attempt to take advantage of what's offered to help them through their dilemma. They keep looking forward to another day and decide to strive to motivate themselves rather than expect others to provide diversion.

Some persist in being able to run a marathon. Another may want to contribute anything he can to his family and society. Others may simply desire to be able to get out of bed in the morning, walk or talk. Nevertheless, your attitude and drive must prod you to keep going.

I have the utmost admiration for those who experience truly dire trials and yet try to keep a cheerful outlook and accept the unpleasant experiences that are often forced upon them.

The Wounded Warrior organization is a group that deserves praise and admiration. Seemingly impossible injuries enter the lives of the wounded. Yet they take what they have left and turn it into becoming useful and encouraging to others. These men and women put forth a cheerful demeanor and continue pushing ahead. Ah, if we could all accomplish that feat. Most can at least try. You can become a self-motivator and ignore those who are negative and discouraging.

During this season of Advent, when Christians eagerly anticipate the birth of the savior for whom they've long waited, remember that God is always beside you.

Despite what you're going through or have already undergone, you must motivate yourself, while keeping in mind that God lives within you. You're never alone. So although you believe you're the motivator, God is the driving force behind your effort. What an encouragement!