Everything that happens to you either helps you to grow or retards growth

March 6,

According to author, motivational speaker, Dr. Wayne Dyer,With everything that has happened to yu, you can either feel sorry for yourself or treat what has happened as a gift.¨

Hello again.¨ I hope all of you are having a great winter, even if your weather is less than desirable.¡¨

Everything is either an opportunity to grow or an obstacle to keep you from growing.¨ Dr. Dyer, also says that you can¡*t always control what goes happens on the outside, but you can control what goes on inside.¨

I totally agree. Many who experience few hardships seem to be the most disheartened and unhappy. And others no sooner get out of one catastrophic happening than they are faced with another. Often these individuals feel what they must and do what they have to do to get through their ordeals. They put one foot in front of the other and keep on going. You must realize that regardless of what happens it doesn¡*t have to change you unless you allow it to.

You have to mentally monitor your emotions, words and reactions and decide how you are going to tackle what¡*s taking place in your life. Will you allow yourself to grieve excessively, become and stay angry or blame other people for what's happened, or God?

Will you feel sorry for yourself or consider the problem to be a gift in disguise. Everything happens for a reason, yes really. If you keep your mind, heart, eyes and ears open you eventually will see the gift that's contained in your ordeal.

You can control how your perceive events and hardships. If you blame other people or anything besides yourself and providence, you will attain nothing from your experience. You will merely remain judgmental and accusatory. Nothing will change what happened. Those feelings will only keep you from seeing the opportunities that come from what you endured. You won¡*t succeed in changing what's inside you that making you unhappy,¨ says Dyer.

According to Dyer, You have everything you need for complete peace and total happiness, right now.¡¨ No one can make you unhappy besides yourself. You make yourself unhappy.¨ So when something happens you find traumatic, decide if you will use the ordeal and grown from it, or despair and perish?

Be sure to attend my book signing for my book "Wisdom for the Journey" at Barnes and Noble, Cape Girardeau on March 15 from 1-5. Come browse and visit and enjoy goodies.

Take care and God Bless.

Ellen Shuck

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