Pet expectations: Behavior, finances and housing are the main reasons pets end up in shelters

NEW YORK -- The middle-aged woman had brought a friend with her to the animal shelter for moral support. They sat together on a bench, soft-spoken and red-eyed.

Clay, a strapping 9-month-old black lab mix, lay panting at their feet, lunging to his tiptoes with high-pitched barks when another dog walked into the lobby.

"I just don't know what to do with him," his owner told Mike Rueb, the longtime trainer and associate director of adoptions and resident care at Bideawee, a 112-year-old no-kill shelter in Manhattan. "He's just too much for me to handle."

Each year, approximately 7.6 million animals end up in a shelter, according to the American Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Animals. Nearly 3 million of them are euthanized.

Most municipal shelters are so-called "kill" shelters, meaning when they need to make room for new arrivals, they put down otherwise healthy animals. No-kill shelters like Bideawee offer an alternative for animals whose owners cannot care for them. They typically treat sick, injured or older animals to ready them for a new home. They also offer training.

Mike Rueb, Bideawee trainer and associate director of adoptions and resident care, and Clay, a 9-month-old black lab mix, are shown inside the Bideawee pet center in New York. No-kill shelters like Bideawee offer an alternative for animals whose owners cannot care for them. They typically treat sick, injured or older animals to ready them for a new home. They also offer training. Melissa Treuman via AP

But it's not just behavioral issues that force pets from their "forever" homes. Housing or financial considerations are the other main reasons animals are abandoned or surrendered to shelters, says Cory Smith, director of public policy for the Companion Animals Department at the Humane Society of the United States.

The Humane Society works with local groups to provide services and resources to pet owners who feel forced to give up an animal due to a move, landlord conflict or unexpected veterinary costs.

"Owners need to be encouraged to work through tough times rather than discouraged into relinquishment or re-homing their pet," Smith says. "Local organizations can often offer assistance in big and small ways -- for example, taking in someone's pet temporarily and then giving them back if that is what is needed to alleviate some of the pressure, or just connecting pet owners to other community resources they may not have known about."

For Rueb, the No. 1 thing people can do when they adopt a pet is have realistic expectations. That means understanding not only expenses and unexpected twists like a move or unknown allergy, but also being prepared for an animal's energy level, and the amount of time and resources the owner will need to commit to ensure their pet's mental health and well-being.

"They'll say, 'I didn't realize how much energy this dog would have,' or 'I didn't understand what 70 pounds look like,"' he says. "All of a sudden, they're in over their head. Our job is not only to talk about the specifics about training and medical expenses they're going to incur. It's about managing their expectations and talking to them about this particular dog, so that they can be prepared."

In this undated photo, Clay, a 9-month-old black lab mix, plays with a ball at Robert Moses playground in New York. Clay has been at Bideawee no-kill shelter in Manhattan since October. Staff work with him every day, socializing him with other animals and keeping him active and engaged. (Mark McQueen via AP)

Clay, the black lab mix, has been at Bideawee since October. Staff work with him every day, socializing him with other animals and keeping him active and engaged. He's making progress, and Rueb and the staff know that somewhere there's someone with the time and love to bring him home.

The Humane Society suggests asking these 10 questions before taking an animal into your family:

1. Why do you want a pet? It's a long-term commitment, not a decision to be made lightly.

2. Do you have time for a pet? Animal companions need food, water, exercise, care and companionship every day.

3. Can you afford a pet? Licenses, training classes, spaying and neutering, veterinary care, grooming, toys, food, kitty litter and other expenses add up quickly.

4. Are you prepared for the challenges a pet can present? Flea infestations, scratched furniture, housetraining accidents and medical emergencies are unfortunate but common aspects of pet ownership.

5. Are you allowed to have a pet where you live? Many landlords don't allow pets, and many rental communities have restrictions. Certain types of dogs may be excluded from homeowner insurance policies.

6. Is it a good time for you to take in a pet? If you're a student, in the military or travel frequently for work, it would be better to wait until you settle down.

7. Are your living arrangements suitable for the animal you have in mind? Animal size is not the only consideration. For example, some small dogs are very active, require a lot of exercise to be calm, and often bark at any noise. Research breeds to help you choose an animal who fits your lifestyle and living arrangements.

8. Will you be a responsible pet owner? Having your pet spayed or neutered, obeying leash and licensing laws, and keeping identification tags on your pets are part of being a responsible owner.

9. Do you know who will care for your pet while you're away for long periods or on vacation? You'll need either reliable friends and neighbors or money to pay for boarding or a pet-sitting service.

10. Are you prepared to keep and care for your pet for the long haul? When you adopt, you are making a long-term commitment to care for an animal.