WITH GRADUATION COMES RESPONSIBLE CHOICES

For adults, May is May. Another month. A little warmer maybe.

For high school seniors, May is everything.

It's time to get through the last agonizing weeks of papers and tests. To embrace friends like never before, knowing the impending separation when summer comes to an end and far-away college semesters begin. To anticipate a new level of freedom from class schedules and parental supervision.

And May is a time for proms.

The seniors were out in force a week ago, reminding their elders of the beauty and exuberance of youth. We looked on wistfully as they strutted around town in their promenade finery.

Tuxedos and formal wear, some with tails, for the boys. Long, shimmering dresses in all the colors of spring for the girls. Hair that glistened with gels and glazes and waxes and sprays used to keep the strands under control.

They took to the dance floor in pairs, some couples holding each other with an intensity that only teen-agers feel.

All that remains of the 2001 proms are memories, keepsakes and photos. The whole world can see the pictures from Notre Dame, Central and Jackson high schools at semissourian.com.

But it's time for seniors to turn their attention to something else.

While the senior prom may be the culmination of their social experiences heretofore, graduation is the culmination of their educational experiences.

The traditional caps and gowns aren't as eye-catching as black tuxedos or bare-midriff gowns, but they symbolize so much more.

That walk across the stage to take a diploma is a walk from childhood into adulthood. It's accepting the responsibility that goes along with recognition that one is an educated member of society.

No one should ever stop having fun in life. There will be other parties. And a new graduate will face temptations to party without accepting that newfound responsibility for themselves.

For example, there will be two options for post-graduation celebrations. Teens can go to the ones organized by adults who care about them. Many schools and churches spend months planning these types of events.

Or they can go to unsupervised parties where there are drugs and alcohol. They can get high or drunk and make bad decisions. Maybe get into the car with a friend who is under the influence. Maybe have an accident.

Then all the pretty clothes won't matter so much.

And there won't be a chance to experience adulthood and wistfully watch the next generation enjoy prom.