IT'S FATHER'S DAY, BUT NOT ALL KIDS HAVE A DAD

It's Father's Day - a time to tell dad you appreciate him with a card, present or hug. Fathers are an important quotient in the family circle. But today's celebration rings hollow for many American families. That's because more and more kids are growing up without a dad.

According to Parent Magazine, fatherhood is becoming more of a volunteer commitment. The magazine points to the following facts:

- More than one in four of all births in 1990 was to an unmarried woman - a fivefold increase in 30 years.

- More than half of all children in the U.S. can expect to live in such a household before they turn 18.

- About 40 percent of kids who live in female-headed households haven't seen their fathers in at least a year.

That's not to say all fathers are shirking responsibilities. Many of today's dads are more involved with their children's activities than ever before. Many fathers are saying that spending time with their kids is just as important as being a good provider. They are changing diapers, taking their kids to the doctor, and staying home with them when they are sick. They are driving them to Little League and dance lessons.

Part of this change comes from the number of working mothers. As more moms have entered the workforce, many dads have taken up the slack at home. But many dads just find real enjoyment from being involved in their children's lives.

There's no doubt about it - kids need their dads. Study after study reveals that kids who have contact with both parents do better socially and academically. These absent fathers need to understand how much their kids need them - even if they don't live under the same roof.

While society can't force men to parent their kids, governments have cracked down on those who abandon their children financially. That applies to both dads who have left the home and to those who bring children into the world unintentionally. Increasing numbers of paternity suits have resulted in 18 years of children support from one night of "fun."

The debate over single parenthood became politicized during the infamous "Murphy Brown" incident. Dan Quayle had a point, but it became lost in a media frenzy. But through all the studies, debates and theories, one fact remains clear. Fathers are an important part of family life. Kids can grow up without a mom or a dad, but they often do better with two parents. Fatherhood shouldn't be a volunteer commitment. It's a lifetime responsibility of nurturing and sustenance.

Today is Father's Day. If your dad lives at home or nearby, give him a big hug. Fatherhood should be reciprocal. Just as dads should nurture their children, so kids should appreciate their fathers. Dads - it's your day.