Hyperactive children can be managed through consistency

Dear Dr. Dobson: It's no secret that hyperactive children are difficult to handle at times. How is such a child to be managed?

Dear Reader: Let me share a list of 18 suggestions that were provided in a book by Dr. Domeena Renshaw titled "The Hyperactive Child." Though her book is now out of print, Renshaw's advice on this problem is still valid.

1. Be consistent in rules and disciplines.

2. Keep your own voice quiet and slow. Anger is normal. Anger can be controlled. Anger does not mean you do not love a child.

3. Try hard to keep your emotions cool by bracing for expectable turmoil. Recognize and respond to any positive behavior, however small. If you search for good things, you will find a few.

4. Avoid a ceaselessly negative approach.

5. Separate behavior that you may not like from the child's person, which you like, e.g., "I like you. I don't like your tracking mud through the house."

6. Have a clear routine for this child. Construct a timetable for waking, eating, play, TV, study, chores and bedtime. Follow it flexibly although he disrupts it. Slowly your structure will reassure him until he develops his own.

7. Demonstrate new or difficult tasks, using action accompanied by short, clear, quiet explanations. Repeat the demonstration until learned. This uses audiovisual sensory perceptions to reinforce the learning. The memory traces of a hyperactive child take longer to form. Be patient and repeat.

8. Designate a separate room or a part of a room which is his own special area. Avoid brilliant colors or complex patterns in decor. Simplicity, solid colors, minimal clutter and a worktable facing a blank wall away from distractions assist concentration. A hyperactive child cannot yet "filter" out overstimulation himself.

9. Do one thing at a time: Give him one toy from a closed box; clear the table of everything else when coloring; turn off the radio/TV when he is doing homework. Multiple stimuli prevent his concentration from focusing on his primary task.

10. Give him responsibility, which is essential for growth. The task should be within his capacity, although the assignment may need much supervision. Acceptance and recognition of his efforts, even when imperfect, should not be forgotten.

11. Read his pre-explosive warning signals. Quietly intervene to avoid explosions by distracting him or discussing the conflict calmly. Removal to his room for a few minutes is useful.

12. Restrict playmates to one or at most two at one time because he is so excitable. Your home is more suitable, so you can provide structure and supervision. Explain your rules to the playmate and briefly tell the other parent your reasons.

13. Do not pity, tease, be frightened by or overindulge this child. He has a special condition of the nervous system that is manageable.

14. Know the name and dose of his medication. Give these regularly. Watch and remember the effects to report back to your physician.

15. Openly discuss any fears you have about the use of medications with your physician.

16. Lock up all medications, including these, to avoid accidental misuse.

17. Always supervise the taking of medication, even if it is routine over a long period of years. Responsibility remains with the parents! One day's supply at a time can be put in a regular place and checked routinely as he becomes older and more self-reliant.

18. Share your successful "helps" with his teacher.

Send your questions to Dr. James Dobson, c/o Focus on the Family, P.O. Box 444, Colorado Springs, Colo. 80903. Dobson is the chairman of the board for Focus on the Family.