'Love patent' lets computers decide

SAN JOSE, Calif. -- Chemistry? Forget it. Psychology and statistics best determine whether two people will have a happy marriage. At least so claims an online dating service that's patented its matchmaking formula.

EHarmony.com Inc. this month received U.S. Patent No. 6,735,568, which describes a "method and system for identifying people who are likely to have a successful relationship."

Not surprisingly, critics and competitors trash eHarmony's process as overly scientific -- some dismissing the so-called "love patent" as gimmicky.

But researchers at Pasadena-based eHarmony, founded by clinical psychologist Dr. Neil Clark Warren, maintain that an individual's psychological profile is a better barometer of marital success than purely demographic data.

EHarmony researchers compare a person's score on 430 questions with a "marital satisfaction index" based on the responses of 1,347 couples. Nearly one in five of those couples met on eHarmony, which targets people pursuing a "long-term relationship that leads to marriage."

EHarmony researchers rank people in 29 categories, including "sexual passion," "mood management" and "spirituality." The company will only pair two people when it is 95 percent confident their compatibility rating falls in the index's top 25 percent. A dominant individual only gets paired with a wallflower if highly compatible in many other areas.

"Opposites might attract, but in our research they don't stay together," said Dr. Galen Buckwalter, vice president of research at eHarmony, which attracts marriage-minded traditionalists of all faiths and began advertising on Christian radio stations in 2000.

Other online matchmaking services aim to satisfy a much wider range of motivations for pairings. Not everyone is looking for lasting love. Niche sites abound, spanning a spectrum from die-hard bachelors to Jewish singles, to people who've already written prenuptial contracts.

Critics say computerized matchmaking discounts the je ne sais quoi of love in favor of formulas that can seem like basic arithmetic compared to the painstaking psychosexual calculations humans make about mates.

"In the long run, I can certainly see the merit in a questionnaire that helps you make choices about who you date," said Robin Gorman Newman, a Great Neck, N.Y.-based dating coach and author of "How to Meet a Mensch in New York." "But it still comes down to attraction as the first step. It sometimes just takes simple chemistry to know when you've found Mr. or Ms. Right."

Rivals say eHarmony forces Warren's research onto people who may have different goals for long-term relationships. Users cannot scroll general lists of members. Many subscribers of eHarmony, which prohibited photos until 2001, still refuse to provide mug shots.

"EHarmony makes claims that their system is the most scientific approach," said Tim Sullivan, president of Richardson, Texas-based Match.com Inc., the largest online dating service, with 12 million profiles and 1 million subscribers who pay $25 per month. "But we find these claims to be ... ridiculous at best."

Others dismiss the love patent as a marketing ploy. E-commerce companies went on a patent binge starting in the late '90s, with claims on how to bid for airline tickets (Priceline.com), how to rent DVDs online (Netflix.com), and how to buy a book with a single mouse click (Amazon.com).

Melinda Miller vouches for eHarmony. The 32-year-old middle school teacher in Celebration, Fla., completed her personality profile on May 7, 2003. Jack Stevison, an investment officer for a securities firm in Ft. Lauderdale, Fla., submitted his the next day. They met in person the following week and were engaged within four months. They're getting hitched Jan. 1.

"The chemistry between us was amazing right from the start -- and I know that sounds funny because how can you have chemistry over the Internet?" Miller said. "But we had complete compatibility between our personalities. ... Jack's a very attractive guy, but by the time we met it almost didn't matter."

EHarmony, which costs $50 per month or $250 per year, doesn't guarantee a diamond ring -- or even a first date. Researchers reject one in five people who complete the free questionnaire and, according to the index, aren't the marrying type.

"We try to be nice," Buckwalter said. "We tell them our services probably won't be useful."