In the last post, I started discussing things parents can do to help make their family stronger. In this post, I will continue by discussing two additional strategies.
3. Work Together. Strong families make decisions and solve problems together. Parents are the leaders of the family, but children should be allowed to voice their opinions and participate in discussions that affect the whole family. Of course, these discussions should be age appropriate. Let your toddler choose the cereal while grocery shopping. Let your teenager choose something the family does on the family vacation. Letting your children make choices will also help them grow up to be responsible adults who can make good choices on their own. It also helps them feel connected to the family because you are sending the message that what they think is important too.
4. Be flexible and open to change. Keeping routines and schedules is important in developing a healthy and stable family, but adhering to those routines without flexibility opens families up to strained relationships. Families who are flexible and open to change are stronger families. Parents can set an example of flexibility by offering to do a nightly chore for a child who has an unusually heavy load of homework. Parents should also be aware that as children get older, their responsibilities and freedoms should change. There are also a number of life changes that families need to adapt to. Divorce, sickness, death, family moves--with all of these events, and more, families who are flexible and adapt to these changes are more likely to remain strong families.